1. Keep a list of criteria in your mind (if a man steps over the
line and does not meet your criteria, he's out, disqualified.
2. Demand upstanding behavior. In the clinch, the man must make
the right choice. If he makes the wrong choice, he's out. This is the trick that causes
men to say, "OK, this is the woman for me. I'm who I could really be around her - she
demands it."
3. Invent fun. Women have a talent for that because they're
whole-brain thinkers. They tend to be more creative, more intuitive, and therefore create
more fun.
Obviously you need something to work with in the man to win with
this. Men can get it when the woman creates the fun. They just have trouble originating
it sometimes.
4. Self-sufficiency. For one thing, you know you don't need a
relationship to be or feel successful. You hold a definition of success that's beyond
success with your relationship or the man (or woman) you're with.
5. Be the man's advocate. For example, years ago everyone told
Frannie to break up with Greg because he was a dysfunctional dud. She said, "I looked
at Greg and realized he was doing his best." She became his advocate. Because of
that, he stuck with her.
6. View setbacks & problems in your relationship simply as
the inevitable consequences of having a dog.
7. Be responsible for your own pleasure, including orgasms.
